Like many new mothers, I’ve “researched” the web many times trying to find out what new stage in Lincoln’s life will be like. In those searches you find out things like when babies begin to hold their head up, sit on their own, eat solid foods, crawl, etc. 

Sometimes these things can drive a new mom crazy. “Why isn’t he sitting up yet, the Internet says he’s supposed to be sitting up!” Of course new mothers, including me, all know that every baby is different and every baby grows at their own pace, but these “norms” can drive a new mom kind of bonkers. Basically, the Internet can drive a new mom bonkers. We don’t even have to be searching for a question online but just scrolling Facebook I’ve been guilty in seeing another new mom’s baby doing something before Lincoln started doing it and I think to myself, “have I done something wrong?!” Of course I haven’t, and usually no new mom is really doing anything wrong, it’s hard to put a time frame on when a new baby will do things, but with lovely things like the Internet it’s hard not to expect a time frame. 

We recently moved Lincoln to his own room, he had been sleeping in his own bed in our room but wasn’t sleeping straight through the night yet (which according to the Internet happens around 4-5 months for some babies). It was easier for me to get up and walk a step away to his bed if he would wake up and need some readjusting. He would always fall asleep within a few minutes but I felt like if we had him in his room then I would wake up more if I had to walk down the hall to do that. Plus I was being a new mom and was worried something would happen during the night and I wouldn’t be right there to fix it.

Anyways, back to the point I was trying to make here.. I’ve been “expecting” Lincoln to sleep through the night (from when he goes to bed at 9 until about 7 am) for basically 3 months now because that’s what the Internet told me would happen, and that’s what I’ve heard from other mothers. But like I’ve learned, I need to stop “expecting” things and wait for them to happen on their own. Of course I know that there are LOTS of babies in the world that don’t sleep through the night until they are like 5 years old! (I’ve just been secretly hoping Lincoln wasn’t one of those babies.) But, it’s fine if he is because he’s my baby and whatever is his “norm” is okay with me.



One thought on “Baby “norms”

  1. It never changes Hailey. The life of a new mother is the same now as it was 70 years ago. I remember so well that we new mom’s would get together and always compare what our child was doing. One was so envious that she would tell us her son was off the bottle. Then he would get fussy and all of a sudden she would pop out a baby bottle and say, “well, sometimes I still have to give him one!”
    Don’t fret – the second one will be so easy and you will be so relaxed. Enjoy – they are small such a short time!!


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